👉I have 100’s to give away. For the chance to win a signed copy simply like❤️ this post and write in the comments which language you would like it in. Or tag a friend and the language they speak. As you can see I have a whole bunch of books here in different languages and would love to give them to you as a thank you for all your support. I will pick comments at random and dm you for your details. From sharing my videos and writing book reviews to buying copies of the book for friends and family who may find it helpful in tough times. It has all helped to make this book as widely available as it can be. And it enables me to keep working on offering free content with insights from therapy. So, a thousand times, thank you 🥰 Happy New Year 🥳 👉If you would like to buy a English / UK copy of my book. It’s currently -47% discount on Amazon). Also if you don’t want to read it and would like me to read it to you the audiobook is free when you sign up to Audible link in my bio 😉 See you in the comments 😉

👉👈 When we feel painful emotion the most natural human response is to pull away, escape them and avoid. We block them out with anything that feels safe and pleasurable. But when we do that, the painful emotions don’t always disappear forever. We find ourselves trapped in cycles of addictive behaviours that keep the emotion at bay for just a short time. The way we guide people to process painful emotion in therapy is to allow the emotion to be there, turn towards it and feel it, while soothing yourself through the process with skills that help you to tolerate the distress. This enables the emotion to take its natural course and wash over you. Emotions come in waves so we know they will increase in intensity, peak and then come back down again. Feel free to share ♥️ More videos @drjulie 👉More on this in my No.1 Sunday Times Bestselling book, Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? (Currently -50% off @ £7.50 inc delivery see link in bio). Filled with insights from therapy about how to deal with real life problems. If don’t want to read it and would like me to read it to you, it’s free when you sign up to Audible link in my bio 😉

👉Can you relate? More videos coming soon. Do you have memories that you try your best to push down, but they keep coming up for you when you don’t want them to. When those memories are from traumatic events, that can cause an overwhelming level of distress that is hard to bring back down. This video is a quick summary of a metaphor that I have often used to help describe how working through painful memories in trauma therapy can help. 👉More on this in my No.1 Sunday Times Bestselling book, Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? (Currently -50% offer for £7.50 inc delivery see link in bio) If you can’t be bothered to read it and would like me to read it to you, it’s free when you sign up to Audible 😉 (link in bio) Feel free to share ❤️ @drjulie #trauma #traumatherapy #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #therapy #selfhelp #selfcare #traumarecovery #ptsd #mentalhealthmatters #recoveryjourney #therapysession

👉 The No.1 thing. Anxiety tells us to escape and avoid. That makes sense if we are truly in danger. If we are not in a survival situation and the thing you fear means something to you and the life you want to live, then do it as much as possible. Whether it be learning to dance, joining that art class having never before picked up a paint brush, going to a party and challenging yourself to talk to someone new. If fear is holding you back from doing something that would enhance your life, take baby steps at first, and just start. Start today, and again tomorrow, and the next day. Keep going in achievable steps, however small, and don’t stop until it becomes part of your comfort zone ❤️ 👉 More on this in my international bestselling book - Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? (Currently -50% see link in bio). Filled with insights from therapy about how to deal with real life problems. Available in over 40 languages 🇬🇧 🇺🇸 🇮🇳 🇨🇳 🇨🇦 🇦🇺 🇦🇱 🇧🇷 🇧🇬 🇭🇷 🇨🇿 🇩🇰 🇪🇪 🇫🇮 🇫🇷 🇩🇪 🇬🇷 🇭🇺 🇮🇸 🇮🇩 🇮🇱 🇮🇹 🇯🇵 🇱🇻 🇱🇹 🇲🇰 🇳🇱 🇳🇴 🇵🇱 🇵🇹 🇷🇴 🇷🇺 🇷🇸 🇸🇰 🇸🇮 🇰🇷 🇪🇸 🇸🇪 🇹🇼 🇹🇭 🇹🇷 🇺🇦 🇻🇳

👉 Do you relate to some of these signs, here is my top tip below👇 Many people are preoccupied with the question of whether they have depression or not. But the label itself is mostly just a tool for clinicians to easily communicate a group of symptoms. You are the expert on your own experience. So, if you are concerned about your mental health and you know your mental health could improve with some support, then don’t hesitate to seek that support. If professionals are not available to you, trusted friends and family or charity support groups can be a huge boost as you work on recovery. It’s also worth noting that symptoms of depression have significant overlap with other conditions. So always track symptoms over time alongside a professional to help you understand them further. 👉More on this in my international bestselling book - Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? (Currently -50% see link in bio). Filled with insights from therapy about how to deal with real life problems. Available in over 40 languages 🇬🇧 🇺🇸 🇮🇳 🇨🇳 🇨🇦 🇦🇺 🇦🇱 🇧🇷 🇧🇬 🇭🇷 🇨🇿 🇩🇰 🇪🇪 🇫🇮 🇫🇷 🇩🇪 🇬🇷 🇭🇺 🇮🇸 🇮🇩 🇮🇱 🇮🇹 🇯🇵 🇱🇻 🇱🇹 🇲🇰 🇳🇱 🇳🇴 🇵🇱 🇵🇹 🇷🇴 🇷🇺 🇷🇸 🇸🇰 🇸🇮 🇰🇷 🇪🇸 🇸🇪 🇹🇼 🇹🇭 🇹🇷 🇺🇦 🇻🇳

👉 So you’re a highly sensitive person (HSP) what next? What does it even mean anyway? (I have a full 7 minute YouTube video on this - link in bio) The recognition that some people experience more sensitivity than others is based on decades of research by psychotherapist Elaine Aaron. But it is crucial to point out that this is not a clinical diagnosis. It is not a disorder that needs changing. You are not flawed in any way. But it’s common for highly sensitive i individuals to feel that way, because people vary greatly in how much their nervous system is aroused in the same situation. So the signs of a highly sensitive person is a description of variation in individuals that can cause us problems if we don’t account for it. Sensitivity can have a positive impact on your life as well as negative. Here’s a few examples below: You are likely to be highly conscientious and able to concentrate deeply. You might be especially good at tasks that demand accuracy and speed and detection of error. You are more likely to be able to process material at a much deeper level. You might benefit from an ability to reflect on your own thinking and experience and developing self-awareness. When it comes to working around the negative sides of high sensitivity, I highly recommend Elaine Aaron’s book, The Highly Sensitive person. 👉More on this in my international bestselling book - Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? (Currently -50% see link in bio). Filled with insights from therapy about how to deal with real life problems. Available in over 40 languages 🇬🇧 🇺🇸 🇮🇳 🇨🇳 🇨🇦 🇦🇺 🇦🇱 🇧🇷 🇧🇬 🇭🇷 🇨🇿 🇩🇰 🇪🇪 🇫🇮 🇫🇷 🇩🇪 🇬🇷 🇭🇺 🇮🇸 🇮🇩 🇮🇱 🇮🇹 🇯🇵 🇱🇻 🇱🇹 🇲🇰 🇳🇱 🇳🇴 🇵🇱 🇵🇹 🇷🇴 🇷🇺 🇷🇸 🇸🇰 🇸🇮 🇰🇷 🇪🇸 🇸🇪 🇹🇼 🇹🇭 🇹🇷 🇺🇦 🇻🇳

👉 Here’s something people get wrong about psychologists and about therapy in general. They think that psychologists are only interested in going over the past again and again. But the biggest part of healing or recovery is in making the radical commitment to having your own best interests for your future, and starting to take action based, not only on how the past has impacted you, but on the person you want to be moving forward. Spending time reflecting on the past can be transformative when it is done constructively. But if you find yourself ruminating over and over, that is more likely to bring your mood down, maintain depression and keep you stuck. How do you find balance between working on the past and moving toward the future? Chat with me in the comments. Feel free to share @drjulie ❤️ 👉 More on this in my international bestselling book - Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? (Currently -50% see link in bio). Filled with insights from therapy about how to deal with real life problems. Available in over 40 languages 🇬🇧 🇺🇸 🇮🇳 🇨🇳 🇨🇦 🇦🇺 🇦🇱 🇧🇷 🇧🇬 🇭🇷 🇨🇿 🇩🇰 🇪🇪 🇫🇮 🇫🇷 🇩🇪 🇬🇷 🇭🇺 🇮🇸 🇮🇩 🇮🇱 🇮🇹 🇯🇵 🇱🇻 🇱🇹 🇲🇰 🇳🇱 🇳🇴 🇵🇱 🇵🇹 🇷🇴 🇷🇺 🇷🇸 🇸🇰 🇸🇮 🇰🇷 🇪🇸 🇸🇪 🇹🇼 🇹🇭 🇹🇷 🇺🇦 🇻🇳

👉 Hidden Trauma - Do you have Intense emotional reactions that seem extreme and disproportionate to the event that triggered it? In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) we often use the analogy of a burn or wound to help us understand how past trauma can increase sensitivity years later. When a wound is psychological the people around us often have no idea that they have touched on old wounds. So they can feel confused, fearful or angry when they witness the intense emotional reaction that appears to come out of nowhere. If we have no idea how to heal those old wounds, it is understandable that we get to work hiding them or trying to numb the pain that they can trigger. And there are plenty of things that do just that. But none of them come without a cost. The price we pay is often in our relationships, mental and physical health, and ability to be at peace when all is still and silent. Thanks for watching! Feel free to share @drjulie ❤️ If you’d like to know more about healing and living a full and meaningful life beyond trauma, then keep following for more to come. 👉 More on this in my international bestselling book - Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? (Currently -50% see link in bio). Filled with insights from therapy about how to deal with real life problems. Available in over 40 languages 🇬🇧 🇺🇸 🇮🇳 🇨🇳 🇨🇦 🇦🇺 🇦🇱 🇧🇷 🇧🇬 🇭🇷 🇨🇿 🇩🇰 🇪🇪 🇫🇮 🇫🇷 🇩🇪 🇬🇷 🇭🇺 🇮🇸 🇮🇩 🇮🇱 🇮🇹 🇯🇵 🇱🇻 🇱🇹 🇲🇰 🇳🇱 🇳🇴 🇵🇱 🇵🇹 🇷🇴 🇷🇺 🇷🇸 🇸🇰 🇸🇮 🇰🇷 🇪🇸 🇸🇪 🇹🇼 🇹🇭 🇹🇷 🇺🇦 🇻🇳

👉Stop expecting others to prioritise you if you’re not prioritising you. Do you feel resentful in your relationships? One reason this can happen is that we give more than we can sustain, feel exhausted and look to the other person to do something similar in return. When they don’t, we feel resentful. Then the people pleaser in us says, “If I just try harder…if I am more productive, more caring, more helpful, more beautiful, more everything…then they will do the same and I will feel more worthy, more loved.” If the other person still does not respond, we go round the cycle again and resentment continues to build. But what if we were to reflect on those feelings with curiosity? To get honest with ourselves and ask, “what are my needs?” and then commit to taking responsibility for meeting them. Doing this work within the self can break the cycle of resentment and shift the dynamics in a relationship. So nurturing the self is nurturing your relationship. 👉 More on this in my international bestselling book - Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? (Currently -50% see link in bio). Filled with insights from therapy about how to deal with real life problems. Available in over 40 languages 🇬🇧 🇺🇸 🇮🇳 🇨🇳 🇨🇦 🇦🇺 🇦🇱 🇧🇷 🇧🇬 🇭🇷 🇨🇿 🇩🇰 🇪🇪 🇫🇮 🇫🇷 🇩🇪 🇬🇷 🇭🇺 🇮🇸 🇮🇩 🇮🇱 🇮🇹 🇯🇵 🇱🇻 🇱🇹 🇲🇰 🇳🇱 🇳🇴 🇵🇱 🇵🇹 🇷🇴 🇷🇺 🇷🇸 🇸🇰 🇸🇮 🇰🇷 🇪🇸 🇸🇪 🇹🇼 🇹🇭 🇹🇷 🇺🇦 🇻🇳 (Dress @myleeneklass x @nextofficial)

Can you relate? Do you have the same arguments over and over? The fine details might change each time, but the emotional response and the role you take in that conflict seems to be the same every time? After doing this for years on end, you begin to realise that you are getting no closer to a resolution. You can even predict when those conflicts will arise, because you know the drill so well. If that sounds familiar then it can be incredibly helpful to step back from the situation and understand it, in the way that we do in therapy. Once you can begin to understand the cycle and what drives it, then you can start to break it and build a relationship that feels safer and more fulfilling for both partners. Who wants to find out more details on how to break these cycles? Improving your relationships is a fundamental ingredient when it comes to improving your mental health. We don’t exist in isolation. I would love to share more on this with you. Let me know in the comments what difficulties and cycles you have noticed in your own relationships and give me a 👍 you’d like to here more to help you navigate the complex world of relationships. 👉 More on this in my international bestselling book - Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? (Currently -50% see link in bio). Filled with insights from therapy about how to deal with real life problems. Available in over 40 languages 🇬🇧 🇺🇸 🇮🇳 🇨🇳 🇨🇦 🇦🇺 🇦🇱 🇧🇷 🇧🇬 🇭🇷 🇨🇿 🇩🇰 🇪🇪 🇫🇮 🇫🇷 🇩🇪 🇬🇷 🇭🇺 🇮🇸 🇮🇩 🇮🇱 🇮🇹 🇯🇵 🇱🇻 🇱🇹 🇲🇰 🇳🇱 🇳🇴 🇵🇱 🇵🇹 🇷🇴 🇷🇺 🇷🇸 🇸🇰 🇸🇮 🇰🇷 🇪🇸 🇸🇪 🇹🇼 🇹🇭 🇹🇷 🇺🇦 🇻🇳

👉 I see the last one all too often. Can you relate? Changing the way we deal with boundaries in our relationships is not quick or easy. It takes work and a commitment to do the best by yourself. It’s definitely made easier when you have someone to learn new skills from, not only to communicate but also to deal with the emotional fallout of setting healthy boundaries for the first time. Given that, would you like me to bring some more in depth content on boundaries for you? Let me know in the comments what you struggle with and I will get to work. P.s For everyone who has been asking me, the jumpsuit is from @donnaida Thanks for watching ❤️ Feel free to share @drjulie 👉More on this in my international bestselling book - Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? (Currently -50% see link in bio). Filled with insights from therapy about how to deal with real life problems. Available in over 40 languages 🇬🇧 🇺🇸 🇮🇳 🇨🇳 🇨🇦 🇦🇺 🇦🇱 🇧🇷 🇧🇬 🇭🇷 🇨🇿 🇩🇰 🇪🇪 🇫🇮 🇫🇷 🇩🇪 🇬🇷 🇭🇺 🇮🇸 🇮🇩 🇮🇱 🇮🇹 🇯🇵 🇱🇻 🇱🇹 🇲🇰 🇳🇱 🇳🇴 🇵🇱 🇵🇹 🇷🇴 🇷🇺 🇷🇸 🇸🇰 🇸🇮 🇰🇷 🇪🇸 🇸🇪 🇹🇼 🇹🇭 🇹🇷 🇺🇦 🇻🇳

👉 No.3 is very common. Which one of these do you resonate with the most? Past trauma doesn’t always show up as flashbacks and nightmares. It can also affect you in less obvious ways. For example, anyone can experience the odd outburst of anger, which may be caused by an infinite number of things. But if you notice a pattern that keeps repeating itself, or an intensity of emotion that seems out of proportion to the situation you are facing, these can be a sign that the emotion is not just a reaction to now, but also to the past. 👉 More on this in the UK’s best selling non fiction book in 2022 - Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? (Currently -50% see link in bio). Filled with insights from therapy about how to deal with real life problems. Available in over 40 languages 🇬🇧 🇺🇸 🇮🇳 🇨🇳 🇨🇦 🇦🇺 🇦🇱 🇧🇷 🇧🇬 🇭🇷 🇨🇿 🇩🇰 🇪🇪 🇫🇮 🇫🇷 🇩🇪 🇬🇷 🇭🇺 🇮🇸 🇮🇩 🇮🇱 🇮🇹 🇯🇵 🇱🇻 🇱🇹 🇲🇰 🇳🇱 🇳🇴 🇵🇱 🇵🇹 🇷🇴 🇷🇺 🇷🇸 🇸🇰 🇸🇮 🇰🇷 🇪🇸 🇸🇪 🇹🇼 🇹🇭 🇹🇷 🇺🇦 🇻🇳 ——— Dress = @nextofficial x @myleeneklass